Relationship to self in divorce

The expectations of how a divorce ‘should’ end can lead you down a dark and bitter place.  So what can you do about it?  Understand your personal responsibility in the matter. #1 Rule: You are responsible for your own pain Say what?!  After what that *** did to me?!! I am not condoning what he or she did.  But if you don’t like feeling the way you do, it’s time for a change NOW. #2 Rule: You are responsible to meet your own needs and take care of...

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Expectations vs. Reality

Expectations can be said to be the root of all suffering.  Yet we need them right? Everyone has a belief on how other people ‘should’ act.  And it is no different when dealing with your ex-partner in the divorce process.  When you have expectations on how you think your ex-partner should behave on top of whatever caused the divorce, you might have a major reality  check or meltdown coming your way. Coming into acceptance of one another is crucial at this time...

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